"Moving on" is a specific, divine, most terrible skill-set. It's about grieving and mourning. Letting it be awful. Crying until the tears don't come anymore. It's funny, actually—most of us start out being highly skilled in this arena (I once watched a toddler go through the five stages of grief over a corn muffin that fell on the ground), but over time we learn to suck it up, shut it out, and keep on truckin'. God forbid we hurt or get a little heartbroken on this messy-ass journey. NO THANK YOU.⠀
When I would have a dating disappointment or feel a twinge of heartache, I didn't want to acknowledge any of it. I wanted to just be MOVED ON ALREADY. I was desperate to delete the hurt and be done. Because feeling pain and letting myself grieve meant admitting I had let this person get to me. It meant I was human, and therefore vulnerable. It meant recognizing that I still didn't have all my shit figured out, which I felt completely unacceptable (I've come to continuously accept that I will never have allllll my shit figured out, especially not all at once, because no one ever does).⠀
But denying or bypassing pain doesn't mean it's not there. Telling yourself and everyone else, "Whatever; I'm over it," doesn't mean you are. Convincing yourself you've moved on because you blocked their number, got a haircut, and are banging this hot new person will eventually catch up with you. And what's so great about being "over" stuff, anyway? Do we get little badges for caring less? Are we winning if we walk away, seemingly unscathed? Why do we want gold stars for pretending NOT to be full-fledged, big-hearted, courageous, lovers of love?⠀
I am always learning and re-learning how to dance with the whole messy shebang. My sadness, my disappointment, my fear, frustration, and devastation...we’re buddies. Let's train ourselves to move slowly and breathe deeply when we just want to be "over" or "done" with someone or something. It's a patient practice. Where we are really living, versus going through the motions. I know we can.
Life is a journey. Where is your journey taking you today? Sunrise is my favorite part of the day! Everything is calm & the day is fresh with potential... 🤙🏼 ~ 📸 Refuge A, Mt. Olympus, Greece - May 2019
FAVORITES ALGARVE, ze staan online. Mijn favorieten van de Algarve... link in bio 😉 Wat gaan jullie doen met deze warme temperaturen? Wij hebben op het werk helaas een kapotte airco... dus het wordt weer bikkelen. Als het goed is wordt ie vandaag gemaakt ☀️
Ready for departure 🚂🚃🚃🚃 While Jasmine is enjoying a camping trip with her friend, mama is taking her mission to explore the world to the next level: Germany🍻
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