So I have two little girls aged 4 and 6 with an unusual New Year’s resolution, to try to finally crack every parent’s conundrum of how to raise strong, independent kids, by giving them enough space to make their own mistakes and solve their own problems but staying close enough to guide the process without becoming one of ever increasing ranks of helicopter parents.
Here’s what I’ve learnt so far. Emotional resilience is defined as an individual's ability to adapt to stress and adversity and to bounce back from negative experiences. Seven individual emotional resiliency skills have been identified by psychologists. While the exact definitions of these skills are complex, they can be broadly understood as; positive thinking, problem solving, self-esteem/confidence, social skills, empathy, flexible thinking and emotional awareness and control. Resilient kids have better physical health and score higher academically than those that are not. These children get along better with friends, have fewer behavioral problems, and generally experience fewer negative feelings. By focusing on their emotional development, we as parents can help to create emotionally intelligent children and emotionally intelligent children are more resilient.
So now I know it’s not enough that kids get good results in school. There’s a range of other skills they need to turn out capable, responsible, kind adults. Join me on my Resiliency Project and tell me about your experiences, #parenting#positiveparenting#resilientkids#wellbeing#emotionalintelligence#kids#parenting